How to survive a quarter life crisis. In all honestly I didn’t really know what a quarter life crisis was till about a year ago when I suddenly started having anxiety about my future. I’ve heard about midlife crisis of course, having seen adults go through them but a quarter? What was all that about?
I had just got home from Asia right before Christmas and when New Years hit I was became overwhelmed with this panic that I had stupidly wasted so much time and hadn’t figured out what I really want to do in life. I had no money, no job, no college education and no firm plans of what lied ahead of me except for the fact that I had to go back to a job that I firmly believe was a trap and slowly killed all my ambitions for the past 3 years.
3 years is a lot of time to be wasted somewhere that isn’t benefiting your future. The worst part was I didn’t help myself to get out and it was only as my third season was approaching did I realized that this pattern needed to end. I could have been out of collage by now and been in the exact situation but instead I chose to stay somewhere because, “It paid good.”
What a load of crap.
I think the majority of us go through this. Maybe it hits in our early twenties or many it hits in our thirties but it will hit. And you will be smashed in the face with a wave of self doubt and realization that maybe this wasn’t the life you had imagined.
Maybe your life is better. But maybe you know in your heart that this is where you aren’t supposed to be.
Mine hit me a week after I turned 23.
So what do you do when you have a quarter life crisis?
Some say it’s when you get the epiphany of what you really want to do. A realization that you need to make a change. Or I should say an opportunity to make a change.
It’s even harder with social media. Specifically Facebook and seeing people you went to high school with get married, on their second kid, in their formal hats at their graduation or buying their firsts homes while here I sit, head against the wall, trying to figure out what I want because not everyone wants a 9-5 and a baby.
That in itself is overwhelming. What if you didn’t want a baby or a house or know what you wanted to take in school? It can be torturous because maybe you don’t know what it is you want to do yet? I know my friends and family have had this moment of, “Oh God.” When their crisis hit.
My aunt moved to Australia for 10 years. My cousin dropped out of nursing, took a year off, and went into sports therapy. She’s now got to work with major sports teams and isn’t even graduated yet! When mine hit I started working on this blog and my artwork in hopes of pursuing this lifestyle full time.
I mean why not me?
Travelling has helped me figure out what it is I love to do.
After seeing the world and seeing that there is so many opportunities out there that are being created everyday is motivation enough to get you active towards your own goals.
Who knew that when we were five the world would have advanced so much that yachting in Croatia would be an option? Or skiing the Austrian Alps? Or surfing in Bali or going to a Full Moon Party in Thailand or being able to hike in Peru to see the oldest site in the world?
How crazy is all that?
So how can we survive a quarter life crisis?
- Make a cup of coffee
- Write down what you want
- Write down what you don’t want
- Write down how you are going to get there
- Write where you see yourself in 5 years
- Work at your goals everyday
- Travel and broaden your experiences
- Breathe because you’re not alone
- Don’t beat yourself up for not wanting a “normal” life
- If you’ve never fit in, it’s because you were born to stand out
“It takes 20 years to make an
– Eddie Cantor
How have you survived a Quarter Life Crisis? Or how are you surviving? Let me know when it was that you had a sudden realization that you needed to make a change!