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Travelling With Your Boyfriend

Travelling with your boyfriend or anyone can be a bit of a challenge. Or maybe a better word is an adventure. Believe it or not Aaron and I were only dating for two months before we travelled across seas together. Before I met him I had had enough waiting around for someone to come travel with me so I booked a three month trip to Europe solo. Unfortunately work had hindered my trip by two months so I only had a month to travel if I wanted to be home for Christmas. Being a huge family orientated person I accepted the loss in order to be home on time. I don’t regret it.

 

Being the flighty and “why not” kind of person I invited him to come with me and after some coaxing with having $1 beers in Prague and having an opportunity to go London, something he’s always dreamed of doing, he booked the tickets and that began our crazy journey together.

 

In Paris I was with my mother and we met him on the train to Cologne, Germany in the bar cart. I was first class and he was at the tail end of the train. I got free beer and he got crackers. The bartender saw we were together and started handing us both free beers and needless to say we arrived in Germany drunk. On Nafta Nafta no less. I like to think we arrived in Germany the proper way. (For those of you who don’t know what Nafta Nafta is it’s a huge party taken to the streets on November 11 every year.) Chanting, beers, dancing, eating and people flailing around in huge crowds are what you are in store for. And did I mention everyones dressed up in Halloween costumes?

 

So. Fun. I barely remember it.

 

So what’s it like travelling with your person?

It can be amazing. I think in any relationship whether it’s friends or family or a love you need to be compatible. You might think you’re compatible in your own country but travelling is completely different. You might resent each other, get on one another nerves (it’s a two way street), you want to see different things and get up at different times or didn’t get enough sleep and turned into a bear. The list of little things that can make you hate the person you’re stuck in another country with is endless. You can’t escape them because most likely you’re sharing a room. Nerves can get bitten and frustration can build.

 

Out of all those things though what makes Aaron and I struggle? Hunger. We cannot function when we are hungry. One of us will shut down and give up and go into starvation mode, not moving, accepting that we will starve to death, while the other one franticly tries to hold it together so you both don’t die. It can be strenuous.

 

Being a vegetarian in a foreign country has its strains. I’m so restricted to what I can eat that it becomes a burden for both simply because I won’t eat it if I don’t know what’s in it. I’m not about to sacrifice my morals by eating a chicken simply because I’m hungry.

 

When you are not compatible things will go crazy, even when neither of you want it to. It’s just how it is. The best advice I can give is make a plan. Write down what you both want to see and on what days you want to see them. Research times the places open and close, how much it’ll be to get in if there is a fee, find what else is nearby you can see, bring lots of snacks, and try not to take things to the heart when one person gets aggitated out of the blue.

 

Travelling brings out the best and worst of us.

Like taking long to order a drink..

Throwing yourself into another country where you might not know the language is hard. Learning foreign transportation is hard. Making it work is hard. But it doesn’t have to be. At the end of the day, whoever you are travelling with, you both want to have fun and enjoy the experience. The best you can do is to be relaxed, stay easy going and listen to each other. To this day I still forget to bring enough snacks and have given up on life a few times out of hunger, or you lose track of time and get a wave of “I need food now.” but it’s okay. It’s fun to look back and laugh at how feeble you can become when something out of the ordinary happens.

 

I love travelling with Aaron, the boyfriend, but I’m also glad I got to travel with my wonderful mom in Europe, my aunt in Australia and Japan, my cousin in Australia, and myself throughout Europe. Travelling alone is easy because all you have to do is listen to yourself. When you’re with someone you just have to pay that little bit more attention to what you want and what they want.

 

Some tips:

  • Bring snacks and water

 

  • Plan it out

 

  • Make sure you’re both seeing what you want 

 

  • Get enough sleep

 

  • Map out your day

 

  • Set a wake up time you both agree on

 

  • Be patient with one another

 

  • Be vocal when you want to do something / see something instead of holding it in and being upset later

 

  • Have fun! You’re travelling after all!

What do you think of travelling with your boyfriend? Do you prefer to travel alone or with someone?

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17 Comments

  • Reply
    Flora
    August 21, 2015 at 3:58 am

    This is SUCH a good and very, very useful post! I’m actually saving it to my bookmarks bar as well as just remembering it’s on your blog, as I think it’s something the four of us are bound to encounter at some point, or just travelling in two’s within our own couples! I don’t t think I’ve given this aspect of travelling enough thought: but that said, we do a lot of travelling around England together which can sometimes be hours and hours and hours and hours in a car driving from one end to the other…and we seem pretty good at that together! I think one tip that really resonated is the setting an agreed wake up time – we do this too, and also a ‘we need to be leaving the front door by X time, latest!’, as that stops it slipping and anyone annoying everyone else!

    🙂

    Flora
    http://www.hardyandhay.com

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      thefernwehwolf
      August 24, 2015 at 7:17 pm

      Yeah four people would get a bit chaotic! But it’s good you’ve all travelled together already so you know you can survive and you all mean well. And setting a leaving time is perfect! I feel silly for not making that one of the points. I would get annoyed if someone took hours to leave the building.. I think I’ll edit this post and put that in there :]
      xx
      🙂

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    Robyn Clifford
    March 25, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    Ah couldn’t agree with this more! Travelling with your boyfriend definitely can be testing! I am hopeless with directions and also hate being late, so it can be difficult to not just snap when things get hard! Definitely made me laugh, thanks for the tips!

    Robyn
    http://www.thetechgypsy.com

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 25, 2015 at 10:11 pm

      I know what you mean! I hate being late as well and then you don’t want to be pushy or anything to get somewhere. Ha yay glad it made you laugh 😀
      Thanks Robyn!

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    Zoe
    March 16, 2015 at 10:40 am

    Hahaha I know right?! Admitting you are hungry is like admitting defeat ;). Also, those are some great tips – thank you so much! I will definitely do the book thing then :).
    xX Zoe

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    LINSEY SIJMONS
    March 15, 2015 at 1:10 pm

    I think your boyfriend is the best travel mate you will ever find! Hihi 🙂

    xxx Linsey from POSE-BLOG.com

    You can also check my BLOGLOVIN & FACEBOOK if you like! 🙂

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 16, 2015 at 10:45 am

      Ha they are! You can go full goofball and run around and they’ll let you do your thing :p

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    lynne kayenne
    March 15, 2015 at 4:38 am

    awww you two are the cutest
    http://www.populairelife.co.uk

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 15, 2015 at 12:06 pm

      Daww thanks 😛

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    Chalsie
    March 14, 2015 at 11:31 pm

    Oh yes, I get a bad case of hangry!
    Travelling with anyone, whether that’s your partner, family member or friend, can either make or break your relationship. If everything goes well, often it strengthens your relationship. Recently I’ve been travelling a lot without my partner, and at times, I think that’s actually harder.

    Chalsie | The Workshop Co. x

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 15, 2015 at 12:06 pm

      It does strengthen your relationship a lot. Sometimes I think we’ve lasted this long is because we travelled together at such an early stage that you’ll know for sure if you’re a good team or not when you’re stuck with them in a foreign place. Really? That would be hard to travel without them I’d think you’d miss them a lot.

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    Carly
    March 13, 2015 at 8:58 pm

    Ha ha–cute post!
    I love traveling with my hubby! He takes care of all the details and I just float along enjoying the trip
    Dresses & Denim

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 15, 2015 at 11:54 am

      Thanks! Haha sounds like me I just float around and he follows and makes sure we don’t miss any flights or trains :p

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    Andrea
    March 13, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    This post made me laugh.Great tips.Happy weekend!
    http://fabuloustorture.blogspot.com

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 15, 2015 at 11:52 am

      Haha I’m glad you laughed! I was like this is either going to be really funny or really stupid :p

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    Zoe
    March 13, 2015 at 10:00 am

    Hahaha ah hunger – my old arch nemesis ;). I get very very grumpy when I am hungry (hangry?). Luckily my partner Oliver is a perfectly calm person, and he learnt the hard way a while ago that when I am angry I need food. There was this one trip, though, where we had this GPS that drove me insane. I think it was hard on poor Oliver then. Otherwise, it is a lot of team work and understanding that goes into travel with another person :).
    Also, I know what you mean about not being able to eat certain foods while overseas – I am allergic to all crustaceans, and thus, if I don’t know what’s in it, I certainly won’t eat it. I hope this won’t be too much trouble when we try and travel South East Asia? I am planning to bring a small book in which I can write ‘I am allergic to these things….’ in every language known to man!
    xX Zoe | http://life-gazing-and-wildstrawberries.blogspot.com/

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      thefernwehwolf
      March 15, 2015 at 12:00 pm

      Hangry for sure. That’s good travel can either make or break a relationship so it’s good your man is so understanding! It’s always kind of defeating when you get mad and then they ask if you’re hungry and you don’t want to say yes because you over reacted or something 😛

      And that is an awesome idea about the book! I did that in Japan and it was a huge life saver there is fish in absolutely everything. If you’re going to Thailand and China you should be fine but if you’re in Japan they’re not really that diverse in food unless you’re in Tokyo. I ate so many buns and rice bowls when I was there. And eggs. When you get your book you should give it to the hotel or hostel people to write it down in their language for you so there’s no mistakes :]

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