It seems like more and more people are embracing the single solo female (I feel like boys already had that privilege of being nomads and it wasn’t out of the ordinary for them to embark alone) traveller as a heroic, inspiring and all out right brave woman. And I agree fully. Travelling solo is a big deal especially for your first time.
Your parents worry more, your family members are weary about your leave, people are just generally more concerned about girls travelling solo which is a double standard most of us have been dealing with since birth.
But what about us that aren’t single travellers?
Are we any less inspiring?
Why I am a 100% an independent female I do have a boyfriend. One that I love very much and am lucky to have found so soon in my life but now that I have him with me while I travel I feel like people have reverted me back into a non dependent person who has her boyfriend take care of her while she travels.
Did I have plans to run a muck around the world solo? Yes. Did I want to be that solo traveller everyone thought was crazy for going in alone? I did.. but life happens and sometimes you have to go with the flow.
Before Aaron and I had plans to take over the world I had fully embraced that I could be a lone wolf forever. The thought never scared me. I was actually more than okay with it. What did scare me was what would happen if I got into a relationship with someone who was content to stay in one place forever? It’s okay for some people, and they are truly happy, but settling down for me that was out of the question.
I never needed anyone and I wasn’t looking either. Sure there were dates here and there but no one ever really sparked a fire. No one was passionate about life the way I was and everyone seemed to be okay with settling in one place, something that’s a completely foreign concept to me.
Nowadays it seems those who are only really strong and free are those who are solo travellers. Maybe it’s all in my head, and that wouldn’t be the first time, but something about the solo female traveller is more inspiring than the travellers who are in relationships. I mean the whole concept of travelling solo is badass and you see and meet these people and their stories blow you away.
It’s a life changing and eye opening experience.
But here’s why you don’t need to be single to travel the world –
You have the power to make your own rules.
So what if you are in a relationship? You can travel with your person or without them. If you are truly in love and want to be together then what does it matter if one of you wants to take a trip and the other one doesn’t? You’re allowed to go alone, after all this is your life to live.
And the fact that two people can love each other enough to travel the world without killing each other is something that should inspire as well. Not everyone can handle hunger rampages and temper tantrums over lack of sleep.
Travelling with someone is hard yet amazing.
Did I miss the hell out of Aaron when I was travelling Europe alone? Yes. Very much. But I also was so happy making my own rules and having the freedom to design my day as I please. I’m a very private person (and yet I blog my stories with the world.. go figure) so I wasn’t bothered being alone. I remember walking down to Oxford Circus in London and I felt so at peace with the world and new I could be alone and happy. Shorty after that moment I got a drunk call from Aaron and got the dopiest grin. He was in Vegas and told me how much he missed me. It had only been four days since he left Vienna to catch his flight to Nevada but it seemed like weeks. The fact that I have Aaron now makes life that much more exciting.
Travelling alone was an amazing experience that I wouldn’t change for the world.
But now, almost two years later, Aaron and I are on the same page. We want to love, travel, and design a life that gives us the freedom to explore and grow. To get out of the normal way of doing things and make it on our own.
You don’t need to be single in order to travel. Aaron and I have grown a lot together and we push each other every day so we can reach our full potential. Without him I’m not sure I would have started a blog, even though I always wanted to, or try pursing my art. I have him to thank for giving me that extra reassurance in myself. That little kick in the butt I needed.
The moral of the story is you can be single, taken, or in-between and still travel. You have the power to design your life. The fact that you have taken a step and want to travel is already a sign you’re ready to book that trip.
You don’t need to be single to travel the world, you don’t even need a boyfriend or girlfriend, you can take your parents, friends, or head out alone regardless of other peoples wants. Do you and let people appreciate your desire to travel.
What’s your take on the single travel game? Do you think there’s a stigma attached to non solo travellers? What are your thoughts?
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